I ordered Anne Bogel’s Don’t Overthink It quite a while ago because I enjoyed her book, I’d Rather Be Reading. I just got around to reading the book subtitled “Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life.” Even when a book tends to repackage other ideas, as this one does, I always think there’s a moment or two of recognition.
Bogel seems to be a master at overthinking even some of the simplest choices, so it makes sense that she has been working on that issue. “These thoughts are repetitive, unhealthy and unhelpful. Our brains are hard at work but accomplishing nothing.” Doesn’t everyone have those nights of worry, or nights when they can’t turn off their brain? Bogel discusses that, and provides questions to allow the reader to examine their own thoughts as they pertain to the chapters.
She discusses perfectionism that can lead to self-doubt and overthinking. One phrase she uses is analysis paralysis. “When seeking a solution, highly intelligent people may see whole landscapes of possibilities that others don’t see – which may inadvertently lead them to make simple decisions needlessly complex.” Frankly, it reminded me of Sheldon in “The Big Bang Theory”.
While I enjoyed the family anecdotes that illustrated her points, I grew a little bored with the references to all of her resources. That was my own quirk, though. Others may appreciate those references and the referrals in the back of the book.
I’m sure Bogel’s tips and pointers will be helpful to some readers. However, I found the last several chapters of the book to be the most interesting and hopeful. Part 3, “Let the Sun Shine In”, celebrated the possibilities, memories, and, sometimes, just the serendipity of life. Everyone has times of worry. Bogel’s seem to be excessive, but she’s working on them. I think everyone should try working on the joy, the splurges, the simple pleasures of life.
I wrote a letter to one of my sisters after reading the last chapters of the book. Bogel shares a few stories and a blessing that particularly reminded me of her. I didn’t really find much in the book that will change the way I live. But, I will always celebrate joy. Don’t Overthink It was worth reading just for that final section of the book.
Anne Bogel’s website is www.annebogel.com, and she blogs at https://modernmrsdarcy.com/
Don’t Overthink It by Anne Bogel. Baker Books, 2020. ISBN 9780801094460 (paperback), 224p.
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FTC Full Disclosure – I bought a copy of the book
Overthinking things – or worrying in advance about what is going to happen – has always been a problem for me. That was why it struck a note on Monday when I read about a quiz – Are You a Defensive Pessimist (or a Strategic Optimist). I definitely am the former.
Defensive pessimism is a strategy used by anxious people to help them manage their anxiety so they can work productively. Defensive pessimists lower their expectations to help prepare themselves for the worst. Then, they mentally play through all the bad things that might happen. Though it sounds as if it might be depressing, defensive pessimism actually helps anxious people focus away from their emotions so that they can plan and act effectively.
Thought that name sounded familiar! You sent me her "I'd Rather be Reading" book. Overthinking… hmmm…!
How about a Defensive Optimist, Jeff? I don't really plan, but I do worry afterwards and get defensive. No matter how we worry, it's not fun.
Sound like anyone you know, Linda? Maybe I should save this book for you.
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